Facing Repeated Patterns: Turning Trauma into Growth
Trauma Unbound Podcast | December 22, 2025
An Invitation to Self-Care
As we embark on this exploratory path, it's important to acknowledge that the themes discussed may resonate deeply and activate strong emotions. Please be mindful of your well-being and take a break whenever necessary. Your self-care is paramount.
Breaking the Cycle
If you're reading this, you're already part of the movement against generational trauma. By engaging in this conversation, you're playing a vital role in dismantling old patterns and fostering new, healthier ones. If you wish to learn more about me and the work I do, my website link is available in the show notes below. I offer one-on-one trauma coaching for those seeking guidance on their recovery journey.
Your thoughts and feelings are valuable to me. Please, reach out with any questions or comments. I currently have openings for new clients and have recently updated my schedule to offer sessions throughout the week during both mornings and afternoons, ensuring flexibility to suit your needs. Additionally, I provide a sliding scale for those with income limitations, as accessibility and support are central to my practice.
Opening the Dialogue
Before proceeding, I'd like to extend an invitation to contribute to the conversation. If you have questions or topics you'd like to see discussed, feel free to email me. You can choose whether you'd like your name mentioned or remain anonymous. I aim to compile these insights and create a community-centered podcast episode, fostering the spirit of group dialogue—akin to being part of a supportive community, yet uniquely personal.
Understanding and Addressing Repeated Patterns
One recurring subject I believe many can relate to is the story that repeats itself. You might find yourself living the same experiences day in and day out, wondering why your circumstances haven't changed over the years. Often, there's an element of comfort in familiarity, despite the potential discomfort it may bring.
Reflecting on my story, there were numerous moments when I questioned why my life seemed caught in an unchanging cycle. Why was transformation so elusive? I frequently felt inadequate and disconnected from my true potential, struggling to understand my role and where I belonged in the world. Despite my efforts, the cycle persisted until I began to examine the overarching narrative of my life. This narrative was often obscured by fragmented memories and a disconnection from my own emotions.
Peeling Back the Layers of Your Story
To disrupt these patterns, it's crucial to delve deeper into the layers of your narrative, recognizing the parts that have remained in the shadows. Healing necessitates an understanding of emotional dysregulation as a normalized state and learning to regulate your emotions and nervous system effectively.
Throughout my journey, working with therapists who understood the intricacies of trauma was invaluable. But there's a lesser-discussed aspect of healing that's often overlooked: the importance of embracing dysregulation. While much emphasis is placed on emotional regulation, it's equally vital to create a space where dysregulation can occur without judgment. This process allows hidden aspects of your story to surface and heal, which is a fundamental component of comprehensive healing.
Transforming Repeated Patterns into Healing Opportunities
Our recurring stories present both a challenge and an invitation—they offer a chance to address areas that still require healing. The process is not about repairing flawed aspects of yourself but rather about facing discomfort head-on and allowing yourself to move through it without attempting to control or judge. Healing is a journey towards authentic living, and it demands wrestling with difficult emotions to align more closely with your true self.
It's crucial to have a supportive environment, surrounded by individuals you trust and who encourage this journey, be it family, friends, a coach, or a therapist. However, should you find yourself embarking on this path alone, cultivating a trusting relationship with yourself becomes paramount. Fear may arise at times—consider it a protective mechanism shielding you.
Navigating the Waters of Dysregulation
Permit yourself the freedom to experience moments of dysregulation without applying unwarranted shame. When familiar memories or feelings resurface during vulnerable periods, such as holiday gatherings, remind yourself that you're not regressing. Healing is an ongoing, collective path we're all navigating—not a destination to reach.
Practice Being Present
It's about learning to be present with your emotions and judgments, taking action to prove to yourself that you can endure. I've faced many challenges and take immense gratitude in my continued presence and the hope that more healing is on the horizon. It's crucial to acknowledge when distractions become a pattern—whether watching television, playing video games, or indulging in sweets like gummy bears. While these aren't inherently negative, they can serve as signals prompting reflection and intentional pauses.
When you take the time to pause, sit with difficult feelings, and embrace being unmasked, you'll find that the parts of your story that have longed for attention and healing will begin to feel acknowledged and whole. The sensations, such as taste, smell, and tactile memories, held by certain parts of you, need to be fully present for a meaningful healing process. This effort isn't a one-off event; healing is iterative, gradually unfolding over repeated instances.
An Invitation to Embrace the Present Moment
Engage in active practices that bridge the past with the present. Whether through movement, music, or mindfulness, allow these activities to facilitate the processing of trauma within the context of your current experience. As tempting as the prospect of quick fixes might be, healing is a journey best pursued with patience and persistence.
By integrating these practices and maintaining a balance between past and present experiences, you enable yourself to move through trauma thoughtfully, without inflicting additional harm. Remember, there's nothing inside you inherently harmful—the fear is simply a protective mechanism, an illusion erected to safeguard you.
Final Thoughts
I hope this discourse offers insights and encouragement on your path. If this narrative resonates with you, please share your thoughts or topics you wish to explore further. Your involvement helps shape future discussions, lighting the path for communal healing.
Your resilience and innate agency are what make this journey possible. Let these reflections inspire new chapters of self-discovery and growth.
Thank you for being an integral part of this transformative conversation.